Not just anyone can fulfill you the way your soulmate can, says Dr. Carmen Harra, a relationship expert, psychologist, and author of "The Karma Queens' Guide to Relationships." "Your soulmate makes you feel entirely whole, healed and intact, like no piece is missing from the puzzle. A life partner, on the other hand, can be a great supporter and companion, but is limited in their capacity to enrich your spirit," she says.
So, how do you know if you’ve truly found your perfect match? Here are eight indicators:
#1. You feel secure and protected.
As Harra says, "Your perfect match will make you feel like you have a guardian angel by your side, regardless of your gender." That means men, too, should feel protected by their woman. A person who plays on your insecurities and fears, whether consciously or subconsciously, is not your soulmate.
#2. You can’t imagine your life without him (or her).
When you’re not together, do you feel incomplete? If you’ve found your perfect match, you can’t imagine being without this person, and you’ll do whatever it takes to keep them in your life. It’s often hard just being apart for short bouts of time.
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#3. You might have a flashback.
Perhaps when you first met this person, you felt like you’ve talked before, or that you already knew each other. "You might even feel an odd sense of déjà vu, as if the moment in time has already taken place. Soulmates often choose to come back together during the same lifetime," says Harra. (In this case, she means you might have even crossed paths before, but timing was not yet on your side.)
#4. It’s intense.
When you’re in a relationship with your perfect match, it will be more intense than normal relationships. The passion and emotional intimacy will feel stronger. It can be more intense on bad days, too. "During these negative episodes, soulmates will communicate the right way and will take into consideration each other’s issues and emotions to reach common ground," says Harra. In other words, it’s a good thing that you fight instead of holding back feelings.
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#5. You just get each other.
Soulmates can finish each other’s sentences, and they know what each other needs, says Harra. "Soulmates develop a sense of empathy towards each other. They can pick up on one another’s needs, feelings, and what’s bothering them without even asking or having the other express it." Furthermore, soulmates are also mentally inseparable. (Ever pick up the phone to text your love only to have them text you at the same time?)
#6. You see the world through the same set of eyes.
You see eye-to-eye on everything from parenting style to spending habits, and from diet to intimacy. And when you disagree on something, you agree that you disagree.
#7. You laugh at the same stuff.
If you can’t make it through a Will Ferrell movie without wetting yourself, but your partner doesn’t crack a smile, chances are you’re not a good fit. A study published in the Western Journal of Communication found that 75 percent of happy couples laugh together at least once a day, with many self-proclaimed happily married couples citing humor as a significant contribution to their married life.
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#8. Your love is more than love. It’s unexplainable.
Describing what it’s like to be with your perfect match and how your soulmate makes you feel is just difficult. As Harra says, it’s a tenacious, profound and lingering emotion, and mere words don't do it justice. Even describing the feeling as "deep love" can still seem insufficient.